All posts by Carole

5 Ways Brands Respond to Negative Comments on Social Networks and Why Only One is Effective

Social media is a powerful tool for businesses. It helps them connect, engage, and establish trust with current and prospective clients, increase brand awareness, website angry customertraffic and ultimately increase sales.

Connecting and engaging with clients and customers is a great way to show the human side of your company and establish trust and loyalty.  But what happens when something goes awry and negative comments start popping up on your company’s Facebook page or Twitter feed?  How would you address this?

There are several ways that social media managers respond to negative comments in various ways:

1. Ignore them:  The ‘Head in the Sand’ approach.  If you don’t reply to the comments, maybe they’ll just go away.  If a customer was at your place of business with a complaint, called or emailed your customer service department would you ignore him?  No way!  So why do some social media managers believe it’s okay to ignore complaints lodged on social networks?  That I can’t answer.  The unfortunate fact is that it happens.

 2. Delete them:  The ‘If No One Sees It, It Didn’t Happen’ approach.  The only thing worse than ignoring a negative comment is deleting it.  It only serves to anger the customer more and give them cause to react by telling ALL of their friends how awful your company and its employees are.  It’s important to note that the average Facebook and Twitter user has 100+ friends and followers, so a complaint from one or even a few customers grows exponentially, costing you customers you didn’t even have yet.

 3. Respond in kind:  The ‘I’ll show you!’ approach.  Let’s say a customer leaves an angry complaint on your company’s Facebook page or Twitter feed. You feel the complaint is unjustified or, for whatever reason, it makes you angry and you can’t help but respond with an angry or defensive comment.  Just as with the first two approaches, your response will only serve to exacerbate an already negative situation. Remember the old adage: The customer is always right – no matter how wrong he is!  Also, remember that the complaining customer is not the only person who will be privy to this exchange.

 4. Placate with a hollow apology: The ‘Gosh, Sorry You Feel That Way. We’ll Try To Do Better.’ approach.  The problem with this response is that it doesn’t appear to be sincere, nor does it offer a real solution to the complaint, which, again, only serves to exacerbate the situation. People are aware when they are being appeased. Most importantly, this approach offers no solution to the problem and the customer may not  give you a second chance.

Social media managers make these mistakes all the time, especially when there are multiple complaints (such as the one I covered in last week’s blog post regarding Ann Taylor brands and Cyber Monday). They ignored, deleted, and placated – all while continuing to offer new online sales and discounts without first fixing their substandard site.  They responded to a few complaints by asking the customers to call or email customer service.  For days afterward, there were complaints posted about not being able to get through by phone and getting no email response.  How can they possibly believe this would have a positive outcome? What should they have done instead?

I suggest that there is truly only one proper response when managing complaints on your company’s social networks:

 Offer an apology and a solution:  The ‘We Hear You and Value Our Customers. We Will Make This Right Immediately!’ approach. The way I see it, this is your opportunity to turn a disgruntled customer into your brand’s evangelist!  This person (or people) obviously had some sense of loyalty to your brand if they’ve spent their money with you, “liked” your Facebook fan page, and/or followed you on Twitter.  Now, however, they’ve had an unpleasant experience and usually they just want to know that they’ve been listened to and that you (the people behind the brand) will make things right. In Ann Taylor’s case, there were problems with their website. They approached it in the ways outlined above, continued to send emails and post to social networks with apologies for inconvenience, and extended the time for the sales. What they didn’t do was fix the website, making it appear that they weren’t ‘getting it’ and, worse, that they didn’t care.

Considering the volume of complaints, it would’ve been impossible to respond to each one individually.  I would’ve suggested that they make one post and send one email explaining that they were aware of the issues, were working to fix them, and offering to extend the sale or give an even larger discount – once the site was fixed (and not a minute before).  I certainly wouldn’t have deleted posts or continued to offer online sales until I knew the site could handle the traffic.

I think sometimes brands forget that handling complaints via social networks are the same as dealing with them face-to-face (only with higher stakes).  If a customer were standing in front of you with a complaint, you’d never ignore them, walk away from them, or simply apologize without offering a resolution. So why would that approach be acceptable via social networking sites? Answer: It’s not!

When you deal with complaints effectively, disgruntled customers will tell their friends how awesome your company is and what great your customer service you offer. And they’ll encourage their friends to buy from you.  They have now become an evangelist for your brand.  Talk about powerful (and free) marketing! You’ve established brand loyalty and trust to a greater degree than you would’ve had if there had never been a complaint.

Just remember that no matter how fantastic your company is, mistakes happen, customers get upset and complain.  With the growth of social media they now expect to be able to lodge these complaints – and get resolutions – via social networks. Think of it as an opportunity to prove how awesome your company is – or not.  It’s your choice.

How should a brand deal with negative comments? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below!

Another Sale Fail for Ann Taylor Brands on Cyber Monday and Empathy for The Social Media Team

I’m really glad that I don’t manage social media for LOFT and Ann Taylor stores (note: in the interest of disclosure, I did offer them my services yesterday). On Sunday they announced a huge Cyber Monday sale.  They often have online-only discounts…or should I say they often ANNOUNCE online-only discounts.  Time and time again the brands’ sites crash in the middle of the one-day-only or hours-only sales. Seriously. This has happened so many times I don’t even bother to shop their online sales anymore. And I LOVE this brand!

Monday was no exception, unfortunately. When I got the reminder email Monday morning, I decided to check their Facebook page. Already they were posting apologies for the site being down on both the Ann Taylor and LOFT pages. This was before 9:00am CST!!

I can’t feel sorry for the brand any longer. I understand that every now and then a brand is going to have site issues during a big sale. But when this happens EVERY time, the brands’ decision-makers just simply aren’t getting it. How can they allow this to continue? Especially in the age of social media when your disgruntled customers can post their angry ‘I’m never shopping your store again’ (or worse: ‘You’ve lost my trust’) posts on Facebook and Twitter for all the world to see! It’s unreal that they haven’t taken extreme measures (many sales ago) to permanently correct this problem. If I were the CEO I’d invest in the largest servers (plural) and hire the absolute best IT people in the US. Whatever it takes.

But I digress…

What prompted this post was not only frustration with Ann Taylor’s incredibly unstable websites, but also my empathy for their social media team. I can only imagine how they must dread coming into the office on the morning of an online sale.

That being said, the social media team surely could’ve done more for their angry customers besides their ‘Sorry for the inconvenience. Thanks for your patience.’ posts. To be fair, they also offered to honor today’s online-only discount in stores. A couple of problems with that, though. Many people don’t have stores in their area, can’t get to a store, don’t want to go to a store, etc. But the two biggest problems with that offer is that several stores didn’t get the memo and wouldn’t honor the discount (some customers even complained that the sales team treated as if they were lying )…and, oh, this was Cyber Monday! Um, yeah. Shopping online was sort of the point.

As a business owner, I’d have found a way to offer those disgruntled customers an even larger discount when (if?) the site was back up. That didn’t happen – not yet, anyway. The social media team simply attempted to placate the angriest complaints while ignoring  hundreds of others, I can only assume that – once again – the decision-makers are not giving the social media team anything to work with.  The social media managers obviously aren’t in a position to offer anything other than what they’re told to offer. That’s why I have empathy for them. No social media manager worth their salt would allow hundreds of complaints to pile up without doing something to mitigate the crisis – nor should any business owner who values their clientele.

There’s a lesson to be learned here for business owners large and small. Don’t tie the hands of your people on the front lines. Your social media team is in place to help you handle crises and to protect your brand’s reputation – online and off.  As a business owner you must give your social media managers tools to work with. For starters, be sure that your server won’t be overwhelmed when lots of people want to purchase your products at the same time. Lots of customers should be a cause for celebration, not a crisis to be managed.  If your site is capable of handling the traffic there will be minimal complaints lodged on your social media profiles and your social media team will be able to sincerely address those few issues (and maybe you could afford to give those few folks an extra discount).

Social media managers are your first lines of defense when there’s a crisis. Part of our job is to mitigate negative comments and protect your brand’s reputation, but you have to make decisions that give us the power to make things right for your customers. We are bound by the decisions made in the corner office. Don’t tie our hands. Let us help you. That’s what we do.

So I ask you…

If you were a decision-maker for Ann Taylor brands, what changes would you make to avoid another sale fail situation? Would you have let it go on this long? What would you do if you were on their social media team?  Please leave your comments below!

The Dark Side Of Social Media: What To Do If Your Account Is Hit With Scams, Spam, Viruses, or Malware

Facebook has been overrun by spam and scams for the last few days. The jury is still out as to whether malware and/or viruses are also being spread through these messages. Some are saying that many of these are coming in through third-party apps. Stay tuned for more details as they become available.

You may be wondering how to “fix” your account if you are the victim of this type of post.  There are several things you should do on both Facebook and Twitter, which are explained below:

Facebook:       

1)  Report the post to Facebook. If the post looks like it came from a friend, report the post to the friend and advise them to also report it to Facebook.

How to report scam/spam posts:

  • Hover your cursor over the top right corner of the post
  • A drop down box will appear. Click “Report story or spam.” This will delete the post from your wall.
  • Another box will pop up. The sentence “If the story is abusive, please file a report.” will appear as a link. Click the link.
  • A box will pop up with several options; click the one that says “Report as spam/scam”.  There is also an option to choose if you believe your friend’s account has been hacked.

2.) Run a virus scan on your computer.

3.) Double-check Apps that you’ve authorized and delete those that you don’t actually use.  To remove app permissions:

  • Go to Privacy Settings.
  • Scroll down to Apps and Websites. Click Edit Settings.
  • Here you’ll see the number of apps you’ve authorized; click Edit Settings.
  • Check the list and delete any apps you don’t remember authorizing or that you don’t use any longer. To do this, just click the X to the right of the app name.
  • Once you’ve deleted all unnecessary apps, return to the previous page where you’ll see options for editing how people bring your information into apps they use and edit those settings as well.
  • While you’re on this page, it’s a good idea to also check out Instant Personalization and Public Search (this will show you how your profile appears to people who view it via search engines).

4.)  Change your password. Make your new password strong by including numbers and special characters (!, @, %, etc). Also be sure that your social media account passwords are different from passwords for any other accounts.

Twitter:

1.) Delete the tweet.

2.) Run a virus scan.

3.) Change your password from the Passwords Tab in your Account Settings.

4.) Revoke app permissions by going to the Applications tab, also in  Account Settings.

5.) If trusted apps remain that use your Twitter login, update your password on those apps so that you don’t get locked out of those accounts for failed login attempts.

6.) Once these steps have been taken, your account should be secure.

7.)  If you’re still experiencing issues with your account, file a Support Request with Twitter.

UPDATE: Facebook is investigating all of the nuisance/malicious posts from the past few days and trying to determine the source (you can read the article from Sophos here ). That being said, there will always be a few hackers that get through, so the steps outlined above are always good to have on hand.  Facebook suggests three things that users can do to keep this from happening again:

1.) Never copy and paste into your browser or click on a link if you are not positive of the source (especially if it’s a link offering a prize or free gift).

2.) Always be sure your browser is up-to-date

3.) Always report any suspicious posts to Facebook.

Have you been deluged with any spammy or nasty posts in the last few days? Have you considered deleting your account because of it?  Let us know in the comment section below! We want to hear from you!

Another Facebook Change – But This One You May Like!

We all know that it’s been a busy couple of months for Facebook changes. Some large, some small. Some obvious, some not. The latest change rolled out this week is a small one and may not be that obvious to folks, but I think it’s a great one.

We have regained control of how we see things in our News Feed! When Facebook changed the News Feed in September, they decided we wanted to see Top Stories first before the Most Recent Stories. Of course, Facebook decided what our Top Stories should be and we could only control that by unmarking posts as Top Stories or marking posts as Top Stories.  the idea was the Facebook would learn what stories are most important to us. I don’t know about you, but Facebook never seemed to learn what was important to me.

This week Facebook has given us back the option to sort what we see in our News Feed. If you look at the top right corner of your News Feed you’ll see a link that says “Sort”.  When you click it, you have the option to choose “Highlighted Stories First” or “Recent Stories First” (see photo below).  I, for one, am happy to be able to see the Recent Stories at the top of my News Feed again. Such a little thing, but it means a lot to me to have the choice.

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Power to the people!

Will you be changing the way Facebook sorts your News Feed posts? Let me know what you think about the change in the comments below.

Computer Viruses: Some Surprising Facts and What You Can Do to Protect Yourself (Before and After)

computer_virusHaving just retrieved my computer from The Computer Hospital (yes, that’s actually the name of the company), I was compelled to write this post.  On Sunday morning I clicked on a link from a trusted colleague and, within seconds, hundreds of boxes popped up on my desktop with messages saying that my disk was corrupted and unreadable and that my RAM was unstable and may cause system shutdown.

Of course, this wasn’t my first trip around the computer virus block so I knew not to click on any of the boxes that claimed to be able to help me fix the problem. I immediately ran scans on BOTH of my anti-virus software programs (I’ll explain in a bit why that was not the right way to go) and watched as every document on my desktop disappeared. Within 90 seconds, all that was left on my desktop were the Recycle Bin and an Internet Explorer shortcut. That was pretty scary.  I immediately took my computer to The Computer Hospital to see if they could wipe the virus and retrieve my data. Luckily, they were able to do just that. They removed twenty viruses from my computer!

I consider myself a fairly Internet-savvy person. I know not to click on suspicious emails or to visit certain types of sites. I very rarely click on links within Facebook or Twitter, opting instead to go directly to the website where the article is supposedly living so that I’m not re-directed to a malicious site or inviting spammers to flood my friends’ walls with their malicious links. I read a lot of articles on Internet security and, as I mentioned above, even ran two anti-virus software programs all in an effort to avoid the misery of viruses and spam. What I learned from my computer saviors really surprised me so I wanted to share these with all of you.

Today I learned that:

1)     You can get a virus from a reputable or legitimate website. In fact, studies show that you’re more likely to get a virus from a legitimate site than from one with adult content.

2)    The worst sites for getting a virus are actually local news sites. Somehow, the virus programmers get their viruses into the ads on these sites and, whether you click the ads or not, your computer can get the virus. One of the techs said that he got a virus from the Chili’s restaurant site. Simply put, consider every site to be a threat!

3)    The first time I got a virus, I clicked on the boxes that popped-up and was taken to a website that offered to fix the problem. Luckily, I realized this was a scam. What I didn’t realize is how damaging the scam could be. The techs told me that a man recently came in with some real problems. He’d clicked on the boxes, went to the website and entered his credit card information. He then sat and watched as all of his personal information scrolled across his desktop. He assumed this was part of the fix. The next morning, his computer still wouldn’t boot and he soon came to realize that, overnight, his credit cards had been maxed out and his bank accounts cleaned out.

4)    I’d always heard that Apple computers were less vulnerable to viruses. This is not necessarily true. The fact is that Apple only has about 15% of the home computer market so these virus programmers don’t bother to write viruses for Apple. As Apple’s market share grows, so will virus programs that affect them.

5)    As I mentioned, I’ve been running two anti-virus software programs (one paid and one free) and still twenty viruses got through. I’ve been told that the most effective anti-virus duo is MalwareBytes (Pro version, $24.95) and Microsoft Security Essentials (free).  My techs tell me this is the very best combo.

6)    Whatever anti-virus program you use, it should be set to scan daily, not weekly or monthly; especially if you are online often. Also be sure that you set the scan times for a time of day when your computer will likely be turned on. The scan can’t happen when the computer is off.

7)    If you contract a virus, shut down the computer immediately. Don’t run your anti-virus scan at that time. Turn the computer off, then restart in Safe Mode and run your anti-virus software from there. Immediately shutting down the computer will disrupt whatever activity the virus is trying to perpetrate on your computer.

If you’ve never had a computer virus, consider yourself lucky, but don’t think that it can never happen to you. Writing virus programs is a big business for a variety of reasons.  For more information on different types of viruses and spam, their capabilities, and the reasons people write them, check out this guide from Sophos entitled Viruses and Spam: What You Need to Know. I found this very helpful in understanding the types of viruses and spam there are out there and why people write and distribute them.

Have you ever been the victim of a computer virus or spam? Let me know your story in the comment section below. And please feel free to share this article if you found it helpful.

Five Reasons Your Business Needs Social Media


There’s a lot of buzz these days about the power of social media for business, but some business owners aren’t convinced that developing a social media presence is right for them. I’ve put together a list of five reasons why social media is essential for businesses large and small:

  1. Increase brand awareness: The only way to make sales is for your customers to know that you exist.  If no one knows about you, how can they purchase your goods or services? People – your customers – are spending their time on social media sites. They are looking for companies there. Consumers are no longer searching the Yellow Pages, they are searching social media sites. They want to know the ‘personality’, or human side, of the brands they do business with. Social media allows you to talk about your brand and get others talking about it, too!
  2. Target YOUR audience: There are 800 million people using Facebook and half of them log in daily. That’s more than any print, radio, or television ad could ever reach.  And there’s Twitter, LinkedIn, YouTube, and so many more sites that can help you grow your reach – locally or globally. Facebook ads can be targeted to your perfect client. On Twitter, the use of hashtags can get your message to your perfect client. LinkedIn groups can also get your brand in front of the right people.
  3. Engage with YOUR clients: Clients, customers, whatever you want to call them, they are on social media sites (see #2 above). They are looking for you there. If they love your company, they want to tell you so and they want you to tell them you appreciate their loyalty.  If they don’t love your company, they want to tell you that, too. And while the thought of dealing with negative comments frightens some business owners to death, this is a very positive aspect of social media! Before social media, if a client was unsatisfied with your company, they may call, write a letter or send an email. If you were able to rectify the situation, great! If not, they told a few of their friends about it and all vowed not to return.  Now, a dissatisfied customer will post it on Facebook and tweet it on Twitter to their 100+ friends and followers who then share that with their 100+ friends and followers. However, if you rectify it via social media, your formerly disgruntled customer will rave about you to his friends and followers. And so on, and so on!
  4. Increase customer base: Targeted marketing, engaging customers (both positive and negative), and offering exclusive deals and promotions are just some of the ways to increase your customer base using social media. Word of mouth marketing has always existed but now businesses are able to harness the power of word of mouth by becoming a part of the conversation.  Giving people a reason to talk about your brand will undoubtedly increase your client base.
  5.   Increase customer loyalty: Engaging your customers and showing them the ‘personality’ behind your brand will lead to their loyalty to the brand and to you. We all like to believe that we’re special, and engagement on social media helps your customers feel special. Those positive and negative comments also allow you to gauge what you’re doing well and what areas need improvement. How better to promote loyalty than by showing your customers – current and prospective – that you are always striving for excellence?

Social media is about giving and receiving. If you give, you will receive. I promise. Don’t expect it to happen overnight, but if you utilize every aspect of social media your business and your community will grow.

What do you think? I want to hear your opinions! Please leave your comments below!

Delete Those Old Facebook Apps To Protect Your Privacy

I don’t know about you, but I’m always concerned about protecting my privacy on the Internet and I’m quite cautious when it comes to sharing personal information, both online and off.  That’s why I was shocked when I read an article entitled These Steps Will Protect Your Privacy While Using Facebook and Twitter, posted recently by The Next Web.  The following post will focus on Facebook since it has been around longer and apps are used more commonly there than on Twitter.

If you’ve been a Facebook user for any length of time, you have undoubtedly used apps. I’ve been on Facebook for several years and, back in the day, my friends and I used to send each other virtual hearts and bouquets, and take quizzes like “What Star Wars character are you most like?” or “How blonde are you?”, among other silly things.  All of these are apps and we’ve given them access to our personal information in varying degrees. I seriously doubt that the information would be used for malicious purposes, but I also don’t think it’s a good idea to allow them to have access to our information until the end of time, either.

In The Next Web’s post, readers are instructed to go to their Facebook Privacy Settings (while signed into the account) and look at the apps that they’ve authorized so that they can delete apps or revise the permissions given to them.

I admit that I’ve never checked these settings before which is why I was so surprised to see more than 300 apps that I’d authorized over the years; some of which I haven’t even used for years! I might add that it’s a three-click process to delete an app – which is quite the hassle when trying to delete hundreds of them – but I think it’s an endeavor worth our time.

My suggestion to everyone who uses Facebook and Twitter is to check your app settings and delete the ones you no longer use – just to be safe.  Again, I doubt that the information would be used maliciously, but better safe than sorry!

I’d love to know what you think about this.  Do you think it’s a big deal for these apps to have your personal information – especially if you no longer use them?  Please let me know what you think by leaving your comments below.

Ch-Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes: The New Look of Facebook’s News Feed [Opinion]

The Internet is abuzz today with people talking about – or should I say complaining about – Facebook’s latest News Feed changes. We ran an informal poll this morning on our Facebook page and, so far, the votes indicate that people are okay with some of the changes, but not so crazy about others.

Many are asking, “Why doesn’t Facebook leave well enough alone?”  Let’s think about this for a minute, if everything stayed as it was in the beginning there would never be progress. And with Facebook, if nothing ever changed, most of us wouldn’t even be allowed to have an account in the first place. Remember, originally, Facebook was only open to students.  That hardly seems right given the way baby-boomers have embraced the site.  Change is inevitable and often it is for the better – it just takes some time to wrap our heads around it.

Even more changes are set to be announced at tomorrow’s f8 Conference in San Francisco.  TechCrunch reports that new buttons (“read”, “listened”, and “watched”) will be added, taking the “like” button concept to a new level. In the future there may also be a “want” button. And, I think the music sharing service that is rumored to be coming would be an awesome addition.

I’m not saying that I love all of the changes; I’m not crazy about some of them, but I’ll get used to it. We’ll all get used to it.  Facebook’s algorithms may not be able to decipher what stories are truly important to us at first, but once we use the “mark/unmark this as a top story” a few times it will become more intuitive about what we truly consider important. And that would be a good thing, wouldn’t it?

Personally, I like that the navigation bar follows me all the way to the bottom of the page.  I like that I can make smart lists and have the option to filter whose posts I see (this is especially handy when I’m looking for articles on specific subjects). I like that I have the ability to subscribe to Mark Zuckerberg’s (among others) public posts. Previously, I’d have had to send Mark a friend request to read his posts and something tells me he wouldn’t have accepted!  I also like that I can decide who sees what I post – and who doesn’t. They have increased the number of characters in posts from 500 characters to 5,000! This is a wonderful change for long-winded folks like me!  Not getting email from Facebook every five minutes is also a positive.  In my opinion, these are all great changes.

Then there are the changes I don’t care for.  I don’t care for the way chat is currently formatted.  I just want to know who’s online and who isn’t, whether I talk to them frequently or not.  I don’t care (at all!) for the ticker. I get Facebook’s point that there is lag time in the news feed, but who cares if I see your post now or in 3 minutes? If I’m that concerned about real-time postings, I’ll log into Twitter. In my opinion, the ticker goes against many of the other changes Facebook has made recently which allow us to decide who sees what with regard to our Facebook activity. The ticker allows everyone to see every move you make on Facebook which negates the post filtering. Of course, if you use Google Chrome you can remove the evil ticker from your page with their extension. I may have to start using Chrome solely for that feature! Rumor has it that a Firefox extension is coming soon (fingers crossed).

Facebook is a free service and it has helped bring people together like no other site has done before – including MySpace, Twitter, and Google +.  It has also helped businesses large and small in many measurable ways.  It has given consumers a forum in which to give praise, lodge complaints, and interact with the companies we do business with in ways that we never could before. I mean, really, if you  have a complaint about a business wouldn’t you rather tell them on their Facebook page instead of writing a letter or email that never gets answered or calling them, sitting on hold or going through an automated list of options that only serve to upset you even more? I know I would! I like being able to have conversations with people and companies that I would never have had access to before.

The bottom line for me is this: Facebook isn’t perfect and I’m not excited about some of the changes, but it’s still a powerful tool for both personal and professional uses and it’s FREE!

Let me know your thoughts in the comment box below!

Why Your Business Should Run Facebook’s Social Ads | PCWorld Business Center

Facebook ads are definitely the way to go, especially for small businesses! Here’s a great article from PCWorld that gives some insights as to why your business should run Facebook ads.  With Facebook rolling out $50 in free ads for small businesses next week, you really can’t go wrong!

Here’s a link to the full article: Why Your Business Should Run Facebook’s Social Ads | PCWorld Business Center.

On 9/11 and Unity

Today, as Americans pause to remember and honor the heroes, victims, and survivors of the 9/11 attacks, I can’t help but think about how amazingly united we were after 9/11 and how divided we are today.

I am often disheartened by the current division in our country, with one side believing the other to be less American, less patriotic, and well, just ‘less’ because of a differing view of the path our country should take.

How did this happen when, after 9/11, we were, in fact and in deed, united? The sense of ‘all for one and one for all’ had never before been as palpable in my lifetime as it was then. It didn’t matter what our political leanings were. It didn’t matter our race, creed, religion, or social strata. It didn’t matter if you were born here or became an American by choice. We were all Americans. We were in this together.  United we stand, divided we fall was our battle cry! No terrorist group or individual, no outside force of any type could divide us.  But that was then.

Now there is name calling, finger-pointing, division, and even hatred for the “others”. The “others”, who are the same American brothers and sisters who we held so dear just a decade ago.  Our differences are what make this country great, so why are we now allowing those differences to become what divides us; what will inevitably lead to our failure.  When we play into that school of thought – that one group is inherently more American or patriotic than another – the terrorists win.  Today’s divisive attitudes may not have been directly caused by terrorists, but they win when Americans hate each other.  I wonder if the foreign terrorists rejoice when they hear the in-fighting and hatred being hurled between Americans every day.  They must see it as at least a small victory since their intent was to destroy us.  As it turns out, we are doing the work for them in the most insidious of ways.

The old adage is still true, friends. United we stand, divided we fall. Surely it won’t take another disaster of mammoth proportions to remind ourselves of this.  We are so phenomenally good at pulling together in the face of disaster and adversity. Why can’t we stand together now? Does it take an epic disaster to bring us together? If so, there is plenty of adversity and more disaster than we can even wrap our heads around these days!  Still, we’re allowing ourselves to be torn apart from within rather than working together to pull our beloved country from the brink of destruction and find the road back to prosperity.

So my request to all of us (myself included) is this: On this tenth anniversary of 9/11, let’s remember that we truly are in this together.  We don’t have to agree on everything, but we should be united in our purpose.  And our purpose should be what it always has been – standing together so that we all succeed.  Because united we stand, divided we fall.

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